42 !! It’s very early on Tuesday morning as I write this and the sun isn’t out yet. Already the weather has started cooling here in the SF bay area and it makes me hope that we are heading into an early fall. (Summer is the time that I am most prone to migraines and I am always happy when the l-o-n-g days of sunshine are coming to a close.) For the past couple of years, I have written a birthday post sharing what I have learnt in that year and it has always been among my popular posts and I am continuing the tradition. Plus this is year 42 (“The answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe and everything is 42.” Douglas Adams, The Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy.) So, how was 2013-14?
1. Just when you think you have everything figured out, the universe has other plans! This has been true for me for the past year. I’ve merely been a spectator while my life was rearranged according to some other, dare I hope, grander plan. I really thought that now that I was in my 40’s (okay, 41) I was at an adult age, where I can make plans and carry them out. Wrong! The universe reminded me that I maybe older and maturer, but it was far more so than I would ever be. If that’s happened with you too, stay curious and please, don’t give into fear.
2. The more you resist, the harder it is. “No, this isn’t what I planned! What IS going on?” was my theme song but everything became simpler when I got out of bed every morning without any assumptions on how the day was going to turn out.
3. Change is exhilarating! It’s fun and I have done my best work when I have been challenged into doing so. (Including running a magazine that is now on its 9th issue.)
4. It’s okay to jump in with 2 feet. So do you want to write a book, start a company, patent a device, or become a martial arts teacher? Whatever your dream, go for it. The only thing you will regret is not trying. I’ve been seeing this quote on the inter webs and it stayed in my mind, ‘you have the same hours in each day as Beyonce’, or words to that effect. And, believe me, if you really want it to happen, you will make the time. Jump in and give it your all.
5. Don’t carry the past with you. It’s a burden. Our extended family has gone through some tough times in the past and it has created a kind of fearful expectation in me until I can’t see the positives for the negatives. With a lot of help from family, friends and Eckhart Tolle, I am learning to let it go.
6. Do your best! Bring your best self to your commitments. And then, let it go. This has been my hardest lesson and, with the weird year I’ve had, one I have practically mastered. As long as I know that I tried my best, I am happy.
7. As women (and speaking to my mostly female audience), we judge ourselves harshly even though we may give others the benefit of doubt. Be kind. To yourself, to those around you.
8. Do something that makes you happy.
If there are other things I should know and be practicing, please leave a comment and share with all of us!
Lots of love to all of you!
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