August is birthday month for me and every year, I write a post about how my year has been and what I’ve learned. (Kind of a state of my life post) It’s one of my more popular posts and it serves as a reminder that this a blog with an amazing community around it- people who I have known virtually for nearly 8 years, and whether they read the blog everyday, frequently or sporadically, someone always pops in with a comment or email to remind me what has kept me blogging all these years. The companionship and support of people who appreciate creativity, enterprise and all things beautiful! So, how was the year? It was complicated. I would love to say that I bravely explored all the options and paths available to me and chose the best one, but I can’t. Because this was one of those years where there was only one direction to move- straight ahead! That said, I’ve had tremendous amounts of fun and I like the person I’ve become- I think before I speak, am kind and try my best. ( haha, sounds like an ad on a dating site!) Here is a list of things I’ve learnt…
1) Life just gets better in your 40s! I turned 43 this month and I’ve got to tell you, I am having the time of my life. I’ve worked really hard for as far as I can remember and while it’s easy to brood on any number of things that didn’t work out the way I wanted it to, life looks and feels better once you decide, “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”- Nora Ephron. Keep remembering that and the 40s is another decade to do your best and shine.
2) The 40’s are also the time you start thinking about lines and wrinkles- I don’t care about these as much, as long as many of those lines showed up on my face because I smiled or laughed too much.
3) Don’t stoop to condescension. No one likes to be condescended to. If someone is condescending, it tells you about their limitations. Let them go. Similarly, don’t be so quick to judge. You have no idea what is going in someone else’s life.
4) Life is easier if you just focus on doing your best at that moment- whether it’s blowing bubbles with your toddler, writing the next page in your book or taking a photograph, being your best self at a meeting at work, or being present in a conversation over a cup of chai– just focus on that moment. Everybody tells us this, but it bears repeating- try it today.
5) It’s so hard to find time to read, but nothing beats being immersed in a book. Nothing. I am reading almost as much as I used to back in my teens and 20’s and quoting Nora Ephron again, “Reading is one of the main things I do. Reading is everything. Reading makes me feel I accomplished something, became a better person. Reading makes me smarter. Reading gives me something to talk about later on.” Because it’s always nice to have conversations that talk (ugh, pun unintended) about books rather than anything else.
I think my previous years’ lists have been longer, but 2014-15 has been the year that I like to think I found the one missing piece of the puzzle, the one I have, consciously or unconsciously, been looking for. I thought I need this thing or that event to happen for me to be happy. Nah, I can choose to be happy every day and “Not to spoil the ending for you, but everything is going to be ok.”
I always look forward to hearing from you. Write in and tell me how your year is going!- Priya
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