Hello Tuesday! Here in the US, we are coming from the 3 day Memorial Day weekend. It’s the unofficial start of summer, and it’s already jumped into the 90’s here. As we head into week, I want to write about self-worth. I want to ask you what is the first thing that comes to mind when you think of self-worth?
When I think about it, it is to remember that I should treat myself with the same amount of love, respect and care that I would give to others. (I say ‘remember’ because it can be a work in progress- I am better at it some days than others.) Having a healthy sense of self-worth or esteem also means that you draw boundaries and set limits to how others treat you, what they expect of you and what you expect of yourself. There is a quote that is ascribed commonly to the Buddha (but may have it’s origins in more recent times) “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
None of what I am writing is new but it bears repetition because recently, I had one of those beautiful, crystal-clear moments of insight – I realized that I was allowing someone to exhibit an unhealthy pattern of behavior towards myself. I was upset and unhappy about it but didn’t know what to do or how to fix it without hurting or offending. If I want someone to treat me with respect, I first have to show myself the same respect and remove myself from this situation- even if it means offending the other person. I can’t ‘fix’ everyone else’s behavior but standing up for myself brought an immediate, momentous and positive change. That’s really what self-love, esteem or worth means to me. Does this resonate with you? What do you think of when you read the words self-worth? I’d love to hear what your thoughts are. Also, did you know that there is a Wiki on How To Build Self-Worth and it’s really well-written, and The Positivity Blog is also a great resource if you are looking for inspiring thoughts.
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