Good morning! We are back from the long independence Day weekend here in the US. Life has taken on summer’s slower pace and it is really hard to stay indoors working at the computer when dazzling, long, sunny days are waiting for bike rides and beach trips. I want to thank you for the lovely response to yesterday’s post. I am back with Part 3 of How We’d Like To Be Treated. It’s written by long time OUATT reader and awesome supporter Nitya Chandran. She shares what is most important to her in how she’s treated.
“When I look back upon my life, there were two separate instances when I was told by two people in my life that I used to consider important, that I had brought out the worst in them or another person. One person directly said it to me and one person said it as their observation of my interactions and relationships. This was very difficult thing for me to accept or believe, especially when it happened the second time. I’ve always believed myself to be a very conscientious, honest and good person. This made me stop, step back and look at myself. I felt totally helpless and felt as if my integrity and character was called into question. Dealing with criticism has never been my strong suit. But, after the excercise of delving into myself, the only answer I could come up with is that even though I may feel exposed, naive and vulnerable, I have to and must be true to myself in any situation that I deal with, no matter what… I just have not known another way. No matter what challenges I face, I keep going back to being true to myself. Perhaps, that is what I unknowingly tap into in others also…. their truest selves or as I would like to believe, a quest to find their truest selves. And maybe, sometimes there is a price to pay there. But, I have come to believe that it is the way we evolve and help those around us evolve! We have to seek meaning and purpose in life. So, I would like to be treated or known as a person who is genuine, who makes conscious choices in life, and who embraces uncertainty and accepts people for who they are. I don’t want to be judged for my inadequacies as I can assure you, I will not do the same with you. I sum it up in a little poem I wrote…
I am whole and yet I am incomplete,
With contentment, yet hopes and desires I am replete.
I stumble often…… and try my hardest to not fear defeat.
I am genuine as it gets and cannot fathom deceit.
Naive, and wearing my heart on my sleeve
Tell me your true story and I will believe.
Want to know me? This is who I am.
What you see is what you get, none of it is a sham.
Outwardly, I may appear as a conformist and conventional,
Inward, my journey tells another story!
Each day I am renewed with positivity to tackle life’s lessons phenomenal,
Every day, I happily lead my ordinary life in all its glory.
Treat me like I am a calm and composed warrior, watch me as I fight each day,
Respect me for choosing to be who I am
And for not succumbing to pressures that society and culture dictates.
Don’t pretend to know ‘my type’ and put me in a box
I am not fazed by that, trust me…. I am not just a rock.
I am vulnerable, open and bear my war wounds bravely
You do the same and we can all sail along the journey of life, secure and safely. – Nitya Chandran
Thanks for sharing, Nitya! If you’d like to share your thoughts, I would love to hear from you!
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