It’s Sunday evening as I type this. It’s been a slightly dull, get-all-the-errands-done kind of day but there is comfort in knowing that things are done. A feeling of control, if you will. Tomorrow, March 20th is the spring equinox in the northern hemisphere, and there is going to be a palpable change in energy and routine. I am not saying that in an astrology horoscope kind of way (though I believe there is that too!), but in that I have added something new to my schedule. I have decided to devote some hours every week to a volunteer program. After years of thinking about I have to, I should, and I am going to, it’s finally set up, and I am excited. There are times that you spend p-l-a-n-n-i-n-g out how you’d like to do something, and times that it just seems to set itself up, aren’t there?
As we head into a new season, there is just one thing on my mind. I am done with perfection. And I am not going to get in my own way. Those are not two different things. Growing up, I always heard the phrases, ‘do it perfectly’ or ‘whatever you do, it should be done perfectly’ and responded with extra effort and attention to whatever I was doing. In addition, it left me feeling vaguely inadequate, as if the current efforts were not enough. And the words lingered and attached themselves to any and every subsequent task. Somewhere in my mid-thirties, I decided that I was just going to get ‘it’ done. Because sometimes aiming for perfection means you keep working on something trying to get it exactly right- and constantly doubting whether you actually have it exactly right- and you miss the opportunity. ( This apparently is more of a problem for women.) And that’s what I mean when I say I am not going to get in my own way. There’s a task in front of you- get it done. Don’t burden it with fears, doubts and the striving for a ‘perfect’ label. In Arthur Ashe’s words, “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” Wishing you all the best and a lovely change in seasons. – Priya
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